The Power of Vulnerability: Unlocking Authenticity in Leadership

The Power of Vulnerability: Unlocking Authenticity in Leadership

Vulnerability. It's a word that can sound like baggage you bring into the workplace or even into your personal relationships. In the work place most people rely on 'being strong,' 'keeping it together,' and showing their 'best self.' But in all honesty, it’s neither the best strategy nor is it being authentic.

The Misuse of Vulnerability: No Excuses Here ⛔

Let's face it—being vulnerable often comes with an unwelcome stigma. You're seen as weak, overly sensitive, or not cut out for the 'real world.' This couldn't be further from the truth. Vulnerability isn't a character flaw; it's more accurately a human quality that connects us, allows for deeper understanding, and fosters authenticity.

And let's clear something up. Vulnerability isn't an excuse for not doing what you need to do. It isn't a hall pass to avoid responsibility or challenges. That's inauthentic vulnerability, and it doesn't serve anyone. True vulnerability is about saying, "Here I am, with all my strengths and weaknesses. This is what the world needs to accept."

The Fallacy of the 'Always Strong' Leader 💪

Think about it—have you ever worked with or for someone who seemed invincible, like they had all the answers? Initially, it might seem reassuring, but eventually, cracks begin to appear. Questions arise: Do they even understand what I'm going through? How can they lead us if they don't even know what challenges we face? The 'bulletproof' leader might seem attractive, but they often lack the authenticity that comes from showing a bit of vulnerability.

I have been in board and management meetings where I have experienced both sides of the coin. In times of crisis is usually where things become most obvious. Most of the time there is a need to show strength, which translates into blaming each other and statements such as “Here is what we need to do” leaving little room for vulnerability. 

And then once I experienced the exact opposite. The company was thriving until an abrupt market shift and other challenges struck, plunging us into crisis mode. In the board and management, we all had careers or significant financial stakes tied to the company, and initially we were hoping that one of us would emerge as a strong leader to guide us through. But none of us took on that role, and that turned out to be a blessing.

Trust among the team enabled us to admit our fears and uncertainties openly. Statements like "I don't know what to do" and "I am really concerned about where this is heading" echoed in the room. There was enough trust for us to collectively acknowledge, "We don't have the answers, but we'll navigate this together."

Our vulnerability became our strength, leading us through the crisis. This happened over a decade ago, and today the company is still standing strong.

Vulnerability as a Strength 🌱

It takes courage to be open about your uncertainties, your struggles, and your failures. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you also open the door for genuine connections. People can relate to you, and in turn, they're more likely to show their authentic selves. The result? A richer experience where people become more engaged, open, and, yes, more authentic.

Tangible Tip: Practicing Vulnerability 💡

Take some time this week to openly discuss a challenge you're facing with someone you trust. Don't aim for a solution, just focus on sharing and listening. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment. By doing so, you're not only helping yourself but also inviting the other person to be authentic and vulnerable.